Friday, April 27, 2007

It's a party!

Babies are popping out all around in the mommy blogging world. Kristen asked for some of the worst advice and the best advice that people encountered before the birth of your child or children. Quite honestly I don't remember any really off the wall advice, maybe I blocked it out. I do remember a million and one ways to get rid of heartburn, none of which worked. I did get some great advice from a wonderful woman from church who managed to raise six great kids into adulthood and is now an awesome grandmother.

She told me that when you are adding another child into the mix that the toddler should be as involved as they can be with the new baby. If the baby is crying and you are doing something with the toddler you should wait for the toddler to notice the crying. That way they would be the one suggesting that something needed to be done instead of you just dropping everything to take care of the baby. The baby will not remember crying for a little bit longer but the toddler will remember being pushed aside in favor of the baby.

I have applied this advice and I really think it has helped a lot. Evan and Harry are generally pretty good friends. They are not so great about sharing but they are also not fighting all the time and are often very friendly and loving towards each other.

Go check out what others have said and play some of the baby shower games. See if you can pick out my baby picture.


They didn't even fight!

6 comments:

GoofyJ said...

That's a great idea - I think I have used that advice with out really noticing it before. :)

Christina said...

Good advice, thanks! Cordy really has very little understanding of what's to come, even though we've tried to explain it to her over and over. She's very perceptive, though, so I'm sure she'll always point out when the baby is crying. :)

Zephra said...

As a Mom of a 12 yr old, 10 yr old, and an 7 yr old who all used to be best of friends I have to say that your time is coming. I hope i am wrong but I don't think so.

Vancouver mermaid/Montreal photographer said...

I love the advice bit about waiting for the toddler to notice the baby's crying. It's so true. They should put that one in a book. (what to expect when you're expecting another baby)

The New Parent said...

Hi--makes good sense not to ostracize the seasoned veteran (smile). Helping them see that they have a continued role to play also makes great sense.

Thanks for sharing!

RookieMom Heather said...

Great tip! I have two boys (2 years and 2 months) so I can benefit from your wisdom...